My trip in China (3)

July 7, 2006, 11:17 PM

I don’t know why, I feel like I am not the person as before. My husband was correct that I do not fit in this society anymore.

I wrote a story named “He and Her”? That is a story about my best friend with a old classmate in high school. After 20 years later, he came to her and asked her to run away with him from her family.

I was with the “Her” yesterday, we talked about it. Surprisingly, “He” did not really talk about “love” to her, he just asked her to run away with him. That is ALL! Of course she refused him. Couple years later, for her son’s future, she called him and ask him if he can help to arrange a medical college for her son in his city. He refused right away.

Yes, he has the right to say so and to do whatever he wants. But in this culture, his action is not acceptable, it is ridiculous for people. So as me. But it gave me some idea about Chinese men at the present time. I feel sorry that I have got the idea like this, but I cannot help. I just wrote a short article about “Chinese men’s play mind” in Chinese and I am going to put it on my blog.

Chinese men have the mind that love to play with women. They want more women in their life but they all want their wife be good. My friend told me that every Chinese men except who could not meet one’s basic need wants to get more than one woman. I think she is right. It does not mean they will go get it but they would think about it. For lots of reasons, some would not get more than one, but they are sure wish to. I feel sorry for Chinese wives, but there is another talking from my friend: “Women have lots of chances to go beyond of the wall”.

That is true, there have to be some wild flowers for man who wants or already do to take. So women go beyond the wall should be common as the nature. It is really sad of the situation for everyone. I wish people in China could realize it soon.

Anyway, I am lucky having a American husband and live in America. I have got enough of the garbage in China.

My trip in China (2)

Wednesday, July 5, 2006

Last night, I met some classmates in elementary school and middle school. I met a girl who used to be my best friend in high school. She went to countryside for re-education. Since then, she become over talkative and always feels good. But without much inside, there is no good for her and the listener at all. I feel sorry for her but as long as she is happy talking and acting, I think that is all the matters. She is a business lady now.

The other two gentlemen were my middle school classmates and they both mature and happy, and I can tell they are happy inside. They helped me when I needed, I appreciate it and happy to see them.

There is one classmate from elementary school whose name is Lang Chao is one I have not seen since graduated from elementary school. It is over 30 years and I can hardly recognize him. But with few minutes, the young boy’s look came out. We talked and laughed. They are nice friends.

Life is short and making a living is not easy everywhere in the world. But as long as one feels happy of one self’s life, that is a wonderful life. So I think they are fine, but it is sure not my life style anymore.

My Dad took me to my brother’s house and my sister in law’s, they both have a place at their work. It is fine but the houses really need some work. I think once my parents started to remold the house there, it would look great!

My trip in China (1)

Wed, 5 Jul 2006 20:12:58

Almost couple of weeks past, I am here in my hometown where I have not been here for 8 years. Everyone here is very warm and friendly. I feel very welcomed to back to home. But the drinking culture and the food culture are shocking me. I am wondering if it is me becoming a stranger or I was a stranger with this before.

I love the food. I love the feeling of being with friends. But sometimes when they are using the drinking skills to fool me, I don't think I can deal with it. I feel like a fool for being an honest person, but I am me anyway. Who cares? I am happy.

I have learned that all the friends here are doing well. They became a powerful team with these years. And they are all looked young and beautiful. Most importantly, they sound happy.

The only thing which is confusing is that the government is trying to change the hospital running system in town. The three big main hospitals are involved and no one is happy. People are angry with the change and the government gave up on two and now it is the time to work on my hospital. There were about 200 people sitting in front of the city hall last week trying to force the government gave up this one too. So far I heard that they are going to delay the revolution.

The working environments are still the same as I left. The crowding, the smelling and the dirtiness 鈥?I feel sorry for my ex-colleagues for them having to work in such condition. I feel sorry for people have to live in such condition. And such condition all caused by the crowd population. The baby boom happened in 1960s. So much of complaining I am making. They are happy anyway.